February 2, 2012 Leave a comment
I chose the issue of divorce. I consider this action be wrong under most circumstances especially since this issue is slightly close to me as people I know are separated, not divorced legally since divorce is illegal here in the Philippines, but it’s about as close as it can get over here. The Catholic Church is against divorce, and marriage states that a married couple should be bound to each other until ‘death do us [them] part’. I’m not normally someone who just follows whatever the Church says, but in this case, I vehemently agree with them.
I actually find divorce annoying, especially when it’s unneeded. The celebrities who marry and divorce and keep repeating the cycle violate the sanctity of marriage, and they’re just really annoying since it seems that they can’t keep their eyes off of other people even when they’re with nice looking people themselves. The most recent example I can remember is the one where the Kris Humphries and Kim Kardashian divorced (I don’t know Kim but I know Kris from the New Jersey, soon to be Brooklyn, Nets so that’s why I know of this issue) after only 72 days and I find that head-scratchingly stupid. Why marry if it’s just for that?
I also have relatives who have separated from their spouses, 2 or more, I think. My parents taught me when I was small that marriage should last forever and that divorce is bad, and when I learned that two old people I knew (not withholding any info because the wrong person might see) were separated or would separate, I immediately lost a lot of respect for them. I know that there are always circumstances, but I know for a fact that those people I knew were not wife-beaters or anything so I’m sure the marriage would be somewhat salvageable. Unfortunately that was not the case. Given my personal experiences and feelings on divorce, I am definitely against it, but I can see situations where it would actually not be sinful.
I dislike divorce a great deal but even I know that some unions are best to not last. Like for example, where one of the partners is an alcoholic and beats his wife and children. In serious cases like those, I don’t see that divorce is inappropriate, especially if the offending partner cannot reform. Basically, I feel divorce is not bad when the offending partner causes an irreparable deal of physical or emotional harm to the other, and not in nonsense terms like the ones that get thrown out in court like ‘irreconcilable differences,’ but actual harm. Now, I wouldn’t want it to reach that level, but then for me, that should be the tipping point, when divorce should be considered acceptable.
I consider myself to be a moral rationalist based on my answers because I consider the general principle and the situation into my analysis of the situation. I also use reason to evaluate the situation and see whether it is appropriate to do the action in question or not. Although, I feel that I have a tinge of absolutist in me because I get upset about the subject of divorce because of my personal experiences.
If you want a divorce, I really think you should think a long time about your actions before you even begin to do anything. I know you, and I know you’re not a bad person in the inside, so what’s wrong with your marriage? Are you sure it can’t be salvaged? Think about it first. Take the road of reason. Consider the ethical implications of your actions, assess what good and bad can come out of your decision, and take a long look at your situation. You’re the one in it, so you hopefully should be the one to best determine what to do because you’re experiencing it yourself. Think about if what you’re doing is right or wrong. Examine it using the road of suspicion. Are you doing this to gain pleasure or avoid pain? If you are, look back on your motive. Why are you doing this again? It might be intrinsically wrong. Also, if you’re not sure on what to do, assume it’s wrong. This is the cautious way of deciding. It’s best to take caution. So, think about what you’re doing. I’d say, don’t divorce, but I don’t completely know the situation. It’s up to you then. Try to go for the right decision at least.